Is it common to be afraid of changes?
People tend to accommodate our situation, however bad it may be. We normalize situations that harm us and perpetuate them. We get used to a toxic culture and a way of thinking that stagnates and harms us; leading to a state of dissatisfaction and unhappiness. We establish our comfort zone in very inadequate places because we forget that we do not like them and that they harm us, accepting a bad known situation in the face of the fear of a worse to know. Why do we refuse to change? Are we afraid of change ?
In reality we are not afraid of change itself, but we are afraid that what comes after the change will be worse . If they offer to change us and assure us a better situation after the change, nobody has any doubt in changing. It is the uncertainty that scares us . And the fear of losing something of what we already have.
The big problem is that, out of fear, we stagnate in situations of dissatisfaction and stress , and accept them as normal and we settle until we stop being aware of them. People have an unconscious emotional block, our mind tries to protect us from what it interprets as a threat ; Even if it is about changes that we consciously want, our unconscious mind causes us to sabotage and slow down. There are a series of deep beliefs in our minds, of values and mental constructions that clash with our rational desire for change. The only way to avoid it is to detect them and become aware of them.
Faced with the prospect of a change , an unconscious fear arises of losing something of what we already have , of the life we have built up wobbling, and this happens because we get attached to things and sometimes we give them a value they do not have . Sometimes it also happens that other people are positioned negatively and contaminate us. When we ask opinion about a change it is very frequent that we are discouraged from changing for various reasons: because they do not know our situation or interpret it, because they want to protect us from any threat or uncertainty , and there are even people who are fanatic against changes because they need stability , comfort and organization; and they will give us a “no” to any change, whatever it may be.
In the time in which we live, it is necessary to lose the fear of change and develop capacity for change . In the last century we lived in stable and safe environments, it was enough to manage situations, but now we live in a time of continuous changes, changes that we must face as leaders of our own lives and not as mere managers. Now the professionals who are successful are those who know how to manage changes proactively, those who are capable of prospering in unforeseen contexts .
To overcome self-resilience to change , we need to inform ourselves, understand the benefits of change, and analyze that what we lose if we do not change is greater than what we lose if we change .